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Manage to Engage

Dec 31, 2018

When someone is emotionally invested in an idea or a group, it’s almost impossible to persuade them to question their beliefs – even if you provide factual information that really should cause them to question their beliefs. Why? It challenges their identity and, as a result, they feel shame.


So, as we discussed...

Dec 27, 2018

Shame is dangerous because, in our efforts to avoid it, we often end up distorting reality so that we don’t feel accountable – like, as we’ll discuss more in this episode, the man who sued United after HE knocked out a passenger – but confronting our negative feelings and the realities that cause them is a...

Dec 24, 2018

Today, I want to talk about what makes the whole world go ‘round – not money, not love, but shame.


It’s always been a huge factor, and if you look through a history book, you will pretty much find a list of times powerful men tried to cover up their shame. But today, social media magnifies the role that shame...

Dec 20, 2018

Are you doing the best that you can?


What if I give you a million dollars to do better... were you still doing the best that you could? Or does your best change?


The more aware you are of your discipline and engagement, the more difficult it is to accept the excuse that “you’re doing the best that you can.”


Dec 17, 2018

If you haven’t already, take some time right now to do the exercise I described in the last episode:


Consider what you want that you don’t have, and frame it as an engagement problem; the source of the gap between what you want and you don’t have lies at the level of your engagement.


After you give this some...